Oh, another
Valentines Day, another gift to buy
and... is a bad attitude! Valentines Day should be a special day, but
it only is if you make it so. If you're single, you can still enjoy the
day, but if you're not, it's your pleasant responsibility to make it
special for your mate. This can be easy or tough, depending on many
issues, including how long you've been together, how well you've been
getting along, and whether you need to work a long day on Valentines.
So many issues, but you can make it special.
First of all, if
you
are way too busy, like out of town on business and simply can't do
anything about that, at least talk and send a present, any present, and
reschedule Valentines day. Yes, you can reschedule it just like we
reschedule Columbus Day and Washington's birthday to conveniently be on
Mondays for a long weekend. Of course you'll want to reschedule to
sometime when you both have the whole or at least much of the day free.
Traveling somewhere together, even just a day or half day trip, is
wonderful because you remove the normal interruptions of life and can
focus on each other.
You'll need to
clear your mind, and being
away helps a lot. You'll also ideally give a nice gift or two or three.
They don't need to be expensive, just thoughtful. How about a handmade
card as a simple suggestion? If a gift is a surprise that's so much the
better.
My favorite
Valentines Day needed to be rescheduled due
to travel interruptions because of snow; I was stranded in an airport
trying to get home. We rescheduled to that Saturday, got a grandma to
watch the kids, and left absurdly early in the morning to go to a
nearby city. We were so exhausted we took a 4 hour nap together when we
arrived, and naps together are very romantic. We then had an early
dinner as we had napped through lunch, and a bottle of wine to
accompany it. We decided to see a movie and then walked hand in hand
through the city sightseeing and people watching.
When we arrived
home late the next morning, surprise presents including flowers had
arrived, we fetched the kids from Granny, and all played scrabble for
hours.
You need to do
something different to make Valentines Day
special! It is the thought that counts, especially when you think it up
together!
